observe

somebody asks me a simple question while chatting.

"Are you a refined person?"

and it sets me thinking, why some people love to ask these sort of stupid and rhetorical questions.

for example,
Somebody asks you, " Are you a humble person?"

You don't know what to answer because
If you answer yes, it shows that you are actually not.
If you answer no, you are also not.

So which answer does the asker expects?

Its akin to asking Yanzi if she's a good singer, or Meryl Streep if she's a good actress.

DUH, CAPTAIN OBVIOUS!

firstly, you don't ask a person about himself, you should OBSERVE it yourself!!
And secondly, if you do that, it just means that you are either superficially retarded or plain lazy to observe.

I mean, its ok to ask them about their hobbies or physcial stuff, but not personality or character. Like you can ask me if i like spiderman (of coz i'll shout yes) or if i am a techie but not if i am a cheerful person or i am a humble person.

I know some people would LOVE these kind of questions because they can say that they are very cheerful but in fact they emo all the time. These are people who loves attention. For kids: ok. For young adults: immature.

OBSERVE, MAN!